Picture for a minute an art installation, maybe in the local park, or in the courtyard of your workplace. Something involving a wood and glass structure in a reflecting pool. A place that is calm, calling you to think for a minute, reflect on something beautiful. Think about if that art installation was badly vandalized. A space the community loved is damaged, there will be a sense of loss, of grief, a feeling that something special is gone. The community’s initial reaction may be to install a new one, but surround it with a high fence, locked gate, lights, cameras, etc. If in the grieving process one of the things people expressed was how they loved that the art was open, accessible, something they could interact with, the security response would deprive the community of that value. Is there a way to learn from what was valued and include that in the planning for what is next? Two of the “quiet parts” of any security program are that, even with a good security approach as part of a healthy community, bad things can (and, over time, will) occur, and that these will lead to a sense of loss, a grieving within the community for something taken away. This doesn’t mean we have to passively accept bad things, or that grieving when they happen is something to routinize and move along. Rather, I invite you to consider the quiet parts as part of the conversation when discussing the community and security. How does the community want to learn from these incidents, what are the aspects that you grieve the loss of and how can they be re-established. Think about the infinite game, how can the community perpetuate those aspects that are vulnerable but that add an intangible value to existence so that current and future generations can share that experience. These thoughts and discussions are important to have both when planning what you want as part of your security approach and as part of the after-incident discussions. The loss may not be easier, but creating a sense of recovery and continuity can be an important part of keeping the community healthy.